Human Behaviour

Today I am writing on all together different topic and that is Human Behaviour. Our behaviour changes according to with whom we are dealing and under what circumstances and time. I would like to elaborate the same with few points, as described below.

1. Some people are in the habit of policing others- like a mother policing her young children and every time telling them do this or not to do this, where you are going , what time you will be back etc etc. This behaviour becomes irritating for a child when he grows up. Similarly wife watching husband’s every movement and checking on cell phone about his whereabouts. People should understand every relationship needs a space.
2. Some people are in habit of saying that what ever comes to my mind I say openly, forgetting that this might hurt someone. But when someone tells them something which they do not like, then they feel bad. Similar is the case with sense of humour- some people are in habit of cracking jokes on someone, but they should also understand that if in return someone cracks jokes on them , then they should not feel bad.
3. Presently Facebook has become one Social Media, that builds the relationship and same way destroy it also. Some people are in habit of pressing like button on somebody’s post without even reading , what the other person is saying. Suppose some body writes up about his/her breakup with girl/boy friend, and you press the like button, in that situation how the person who has posted the message will feel.
4. Then there are mothers, who want to control their married daughters with remote, and presently that remote is cell phone, calling them daily and instructing them to do this or not to do this. Here daughter gets so used to her mother’s behaviour that instead of asking her mother in law how to prepare certain dish, she calls her mother and takes recipe from her. In this case mother’s interference in daughter’s married life is not going to help her daughter in building relationship with her in laws.
5. Take the case of a mother-when her child is young she tells the child get up quickly, eat the breakfast quickly as the school bus is coming. But when the same child becomes 18, and is having the breakfast quickly while standing,  then the same mother feels very bad, and feels her child is not eating properly. That time mother forgets that it was her own teaching, child is eating quickly.
6. Parents telling children not to watch too much TV and gets addicted to the same, but the same parents tell the child go and watch TV  and do not disturb them when their friends come home.
7. Children closely watch mother’s behaviour and relationship with her parents and in laws. Suppose mother’s behaviour is not very good with her in laws, which child watches. The child also watches when his mother goes to her parents’ place then her behaviour totally changes. But the same mother complains when later in life his son’s wife does not treat her well. Some mother wants her son to stay with her but she will always advise her daughter to stay separately from her in laws after marriage.  What double standards.
8. Some mothers pamper their child and gives the  child the things he/she wants with a rider not to tell about this to the father.  Same way father also behaves, and tell child not to tell mother. Later, the child when he grows up uses the situation to his advantage with either of the parents.
9. People in 40s/50s always face this dilemna, when the parents tell them you are not telling any things to your children on their behaviour. And in similar fashion their children telling them about their grand parents.
10. At present people are addicted to gadgets and give a damn about relations. A person might have 500 friends on face book, but in the case of an emergency how many stand with the same person to give him/her moral support.
11. Google  made an ad showing the child after the birth is using google, which is very much exaggerated, but the same Google also made an ad showing how old people are getting connected through the social media, and are reviving their memories.
12. Earlier full family used to watch TV together during prime time, but when soap operas started then all the ladies were hooked with TV during prime time. Now the situation is such that each and every room of the house is having TV, and everybody is watching the program of his/her choice. The problem is increasing with on line streaming of channels on the cell phones.
13. Presently people have forgotten to spend time with each other, and for this situation major contributor is social media/smart phone.
14. In the earlier days spouses could sense the other spouse’s mood by reading his/her face and act/behave accordingly and check about what is the matter. Present days, you are very lucky if your spouse can understand you by reading your face, the reason being every body is addicted to smart phone and have little time to spend with each other, forget about learning to face read.

Friends I hope, you will like this blog of mine on entirely different topic, which is not my forte.

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Anil Malik

1st Nov, 2018